Even though it is extremely pleasurable (especially when you're on the receiving end!) and celebrated extensively in the Kamasutra, oral sex is one of the most underrated sex practices amongst Indian couples today and associated with many anxieties.
Now, that's a shame! Due to the direct clitoral stimulation, oral sex is the easiest route to an orgasm for many women. Plus, the added lubrication and extra wetness that results from oral sex can make post-oral penetrative sex that much more enjoyable. But even though the majority of women and men love oral sex, according to a study conducted in 2010, only 17 percent of Indian men and 12 percent of Indian women reported having oral sex in a given year. Performance anxiety and worries about not smelling or tasting pleasantly are the most common reasons why Indian couples are having less oral sex than they would like. So, apart from trying different positions, what can you do to make oral sex less stressful and more pleasurable? We have compiled five oral sex tips for you that are guaranteed to spice up oral play and help you overcome your anxieties.
Below are 5 oral sex tips & expert sex toy suggestions to overcome common anxieties and take oral play to the next level.
- Prepare your body for oral sex
- Spice things up with flavoured lubes
- Heighten your senses by blindfolding your partner
- Experiment with sex toys for extra stimulation
- Stimulate your partner's G-spot or P-spot
1. Prepare your body for oral sex
Oral sex can be as stressful as it is pleasurable - and maybe that's the reason why people don't practice it as much as they would like. Does it smell good? Does it taste good? Vaginas and penises are complicated organs. While some people love a strong natural taste and smell of their partner, others prefer giving oral sex to someone who's fresh out of the shower. Some people like to swallow semen when giving blowjobs, some don't. Period sex is a turn-on for some and a turn-off for others. It's hard to relax and let go when you're worried about smelling unpleasantly or when you're secretly turned off by your partner's smell or taste. Therefore, it's best to prepare for oral sex in the way you feel most comfortable with. This could mean using intimate wipes, taking a shower, putting on fresh underwear, shaving or just leaving things as they are - your call. It also makes sense to discuss safe sex as well as setting some ground rules with your partner before engaging in oral play so you can relax and fully let go.
2. Make it wet!
One of the most essential tips for great oral sex is to make it wet. This will make it feel a lot more luscious and sensual with no risk of unwanted friction. Use flavoured lube to make oral play more yummy and mix things up with flavours like cherry, passion fruit or strawberry - an added bonus for the giver. Water-based lube is safe to use with condoms. You can easily order lubes and other adult products online, e.g. at Lovetreats and get them shipped discreetly across India.
3. Heighten your senses
Blindfolding your partner can be a great way to reduce performance anxiety. When your partner can’t see you, you don’t have to worry about what you look like while giving head. Plus, it will sharpen your partner’s senses and make every touch a sensory explosion for them. When you're on the receiving end, wearing a blindfold also helps you focus and lose yourself more in the experience of receiving pleasure from your partner. Blindfolds are available for sale here.
4. Don’t be afraid to use a little help
There are some tools that can help you take things to the next level when giving your partner oral pleasure. A vibrator can be an invaluable tool to the art of oral - regardless of the gender of the receiving partner. Use something small like a bullet vibrator so you can still be in control. Women will enjoy it if you put the vibrator on the clitoral hood, then spend some time with your tongue in the labia area. You can also ask her to hold the vibrator so you have your hands free to focus on her G-spot. Guys will enjoy vibrating stimulation on the scrotum and base of the penis. More adventurous couples can also consider experimenting with anal toys like butt plugs for extra stimulation. Curious to learn more about how popular sex toys are in India and where to buy them? Click here to find out all you need to know about sex toys in India.
5. Find the G-spot / P-spot
For women, the double stimulation of licking, sucking or massaging the clitoris with your tongue and simultaneously stimulating the G-spot with your fingers or a vibrator will lead to mind blowing orgasms. Putting a pillow under her butt will make it easier for the partner to access her G-spot which is located about a finger length inside her vagina. Putting a pillow also gives her more leverage to move her hips against her partner in a way that feels amazing. For men who are open to experimenting, massaging his p-spot with your finger or even anal sex toys such as butt plugs or anal beads (luckily, these are legal in India now that 377 is history!) can give incredible pleasure. The male prostate gland or p-spot, which is full of nerve endings guaranteed to drive him wild, is located about a finger-length inside his anus. Use plenty of lube and start with a gentle massage of his perineum while giving him a blowjob.
These sex tips might be just what you needed to get over your fears and anxieties and put you in the mood to push your partner's buttons. Enjoy, and don't forget to thank your partner for a job well done!
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