Sex during a pregnancy is quite a taboo in India, but it actually isn’t as scary as it may sometimes seem. It’s a totally normal part of a pregnancy – as long as the pregnancy isn’t with complications, or your doctor advises you otherwise. But if all else seems to be going as per schedule and you and your partner feel like having sex, sex during pregnancy can be as good as sex during other times, and we would encourage Indian couples to give it a try!
Common concerns about having sex while pregnant
Many Indian couples wonder, whether it is safe to have sex during pregnancy. The answer is yes, absolutely! Unless your doctor has advised against it, you can have as much sex during pregnancy as you like. Although it may seem like penetration and intercourse movement may harm the baby growing inside of you, this is not true. Your baby is protected by your abdomen and the muscular walls of your uterus, and is also cushioned by the amniotic sac’s fluid! Contractions during an orgasm as well, are different from those that occur during labour. Having an orgasm may help you as well much later in your pregnancy – according to some doctors. However, this only applies to women that are overdue and want to induce labour. Before you reach that point, orgasmic contractions are nothing but just that: orgasmic contractions.
Now, during your pregnancy, your hormones can be all over the place – as well as changes in body-image and confidence. These could both be positive (full sex drive); or negative (self-conscious). Remember that communication is always key, and that you are telling your partner what’s working for you and how you’re feeling. This way you can maximize the experience and have a comfortable, truly divine coupling. Don't let false myths and taboos around sex during pregnancy - which unfortunately are common in India - keep you from enjoying your sex life while pregnant!
Below are 6 tips for enjoying sex during pregnancy.
Tip #1: Oral sex
Oral sex is a great way to get off when you’re pregnant, especially if you feel uncomfortable with penetration. You can get licked, sucked and tongue-penetrated as much as you want and happily orgasm with no worries about harming your body.
Tip #2: Pillows for extra support
As your body changes, and your tummy gets bigger, it’s not uncommon to feel extra stress on your back and knees. Sitting, walking, and standing can become tasking and uncomfortable. So it’s no surprise that during sex, pregnant women may experience discomfort in terms of their posture and positions. That’s why we recommend using pillows for support when having sex during pregnancy. Whether you’re on your front, back or side, pillows are a great way to increase support for your changing body, and can help alleviate some of the discomfort that comes with having a big belly.
Place the pillow(s), for head support, for back or knee support, or even for tummy support while having sex. This gives you comfort and support, plus it can also give you that great lift that helps your partner penetrate you just right and hit the g-spot. Placing a pillow strategically under your butt or hips can even help you masturbate easier, helping you reach places that weren’t so easy to reach with your growing belly.
Tip #3: Plenty of lube
Even if you’re in the mood and want to get down and dirty – sometimes our vaginas just don’t play along. During pregnancy your hormones are all over the place, and sometimes your body can experience drops in estrogen. Therefore, during pregnancy, the vagina may not get as wet as you would like it to be. We recommend applying some water based lube for smooth gliding.
Tip #4: Best sex positions during pregnancy
When it comes to positions to use during pregnancy, comfort is the most important factor! So we recommend the easier ones that will ensure that you only have to focus on your pleasure during the entire experience. Hint: Missionary may not be the easiest sex position during pregnancy. Instead, you can ride your partner ensuring that you have almost full control over the movement, and therefore of your pleasure. Doggie style is also great as it doesn’t put any pressure on your stomach and penetration is maximized to hit all the good spots. Spooning or lying sideways together, with your partner behind you is also a great way for ease of movement and maximum comfort. We recommend avoiding positions that may put pressure on your stomach, especially after the fourth month of pregnancy.
Tip #5: Use a little help
Especially when you find it harder to move around towards the end of your pregnancy, using a sex toy can be a lifesaver. Using something like a vibrator makes it easier for you or your partner to access your erogenous zones without your belly being too much of an obstacle.
Tip #6: Erotic massages
And finally, we have a tip that you can use both sexually and non-sexually – but will be of great relief and comfort during your pregnancy. Massage! Who doesn’t love a good massage? If bodily discomfort is stopping you from feeling sexy, ask your partner to first rub you down and get you nice and loose.
So there you have it, 6 tips to help you with your sexy time even when you’re pregnant. A woman deserves an orgasm whenever she wants one – and we’re not going to let your pregnancy stop you from getting one!